The sheer volume of people Susan has hosted over the years has resulted in the receipt of tons of heartfelt thank-you notes, all deeply appreciated. While the major of guests you’re likely to entertain in your hosting career don’t bother to take the time to say thank you, it’s a lost art proven to pay dividends when it comes to making a positive, lasting impression. You know how refreshing a genuine expression of gratitude feels when you’re on the receiving end, it’s also a primary feature in defining both job and overall relationship satisfaction.
Author and UC Davis psychology professor Robert Emmons explained to Fast Company how expressing gratitude is a core building block of social reciprocity. “It is not only a response to kindnesses received, but it is also a motivator of future benevolent actions on the part of the recipient. Serving these functions, gratitude enhances our own well-being in that we are built for relationships. Gratitude is the high-octane fuel that, without which, we’d be in relational ruin.”
While there’s research to support that thank you notes make the recipient feel happier and more engaged while expanding the emotional quotient of the person writing it, there’s also evidence to support that people trip up on what to say when it comes to the art of the thank you. Psychological Science published a study finding that most of us are overestimating the awkwardness of expressing gratitude and underestimating its positive impact. This is a gentle nudge to send your thank you notes because not only does it make everyone involved feel great, socially it’s worth its weight in gold.
We’re sharing some the most memorable ones Susan has received below so you can get a feel for how meaningful these kinds of IRL connections. Losing connection to our respective communities has cut us off from a big part of what makes us human, let’s not forget to show